Flower Girl Responsibilities

You may choose one or two little girls to be flower girls. The best age range is between four and eight. Although younger ones are cute, they can create some real challenges during a processional or ceremony. If you choose two girls, it looks nice if they are about the same size, but that may not be possible. It can be a special honor for a child to be chosen as part of you wedding.

Advance Help

Flower girls attend the shower and some pre-wedding parties. They also attend the rehearsal and may attend the rehearsal dinner with their families.

At the Wedding

Flower girls walk directly in front of the bride in the processional and in front of the maid of honor in the recessional. As flower girls walk down the aisle, they may scatter flower or rose petals. If petals are not permitted, sometimes flower girls will hand out single flowers to guests as they walk, or they may just carry a bouquet, a ring of flowers or a pomander ball. During the ceremony, flower girls may stand near the bridesmaids or younger ones may sit with their families. They are in the formal photographs of the bridal parties.

At the Reception

Flower girls do not usually stand in the reception line. They usually sit at a table of honor with their families rather than at the head table. They may dance with family members, friends or other members of the wedding party if they choose to do so.

Expenses

Families of flower girls are expected to pay for dresses and other attire. If travel expenses are involved, the girls’ family picks up these costs. Flower girls are not expected to bring a gift to pre-wedding parties they may attend. If their parents attend, gift expectations would be the same as any other guest. If they attend more than one shower or party, only one shower gift is expected. Flower girls are not responsible for helping financially with bridal showers.